Saturday, November 28, 2009

Holiday Parties

The 10 Pound Months

Permission was finally granted. Now I could abandon my belly to the fried appetizers and the dessert table that's been tempting me like a treasure covered altar in an Indiana Jones movie. Who gave me that permission anyway? If it was the Pillsbury dough boy, he's going to have some serious competition. After all, I'm reasoning that it’s just a short holiday season and I’ve been good all year. Anyway, any extra weight can get hidden under my charcoal grey cable knit sweater with its slimming vertical stripes, right?

I woke-up in bed, covered in a sweat, with a half eaten ginger cookie in my hand.

OMG it was all just a dream.

Here I am, slightly terrified. So, I thought I'd share some of my personal survival tips for getting through the holidays – the "Ten Pound Months" – without packing on extra pounds.

Get pushy

You may have less time now but you can still include exercise into your day. Start out with a cat stretch, neck stretch, three sets of push-ups, and an abs workout. If you’re really committed, drop to the floor and do a set of push-ups every three hours. Only have twenty minutes for a gym workout? Get in there and just do it – before you spend those twenty minutes thinking about how there isn’t enough time to do anything.

Don’t party hungry

If you’re going out to dinner or a party, don’t go hungry. Plan the day before so that you’ll have four or five small meals starting with breakfast. Make your last meal before going out a protein shake. You’ll arrive feeling energized – not starving, and the small meals during the day will have fired up your metabolism.

Drink a lot

You thought this was the 'Absolute' solution? No, I didn't mean alcohol. This is a plan for navigating the holiday bar and leaving with with your reputation intact. Other than your reputation, we’re on a mid-section survival mission here. So start your day with a glass of distilled water. It will kick-off an alkaline reaction in your body and hydrate you after fasting all night. Then keep a scorecard at your desk and drink at least eight to ten glasses of spring water during the day. The water will keep you full and keep your brain functioning at its peak. Make sure your first “drink” at the party is sparkling water with a splash of cranberry juice in a martini glass. The glass in your hand will fit right in with the crowd, and you’ll end up having one less alcoholic drink.

See red

When you drink, make it red. Red wine can help raise your HDL levels (good cholesterol) and prevent LDL (the bad guys) from forming. It’s a source of flavonoid pnenolics – and resveratrol, which can help, prevent blod clots and plaque formation in your arteries. Should you make red wine your new best friend? Probably not. It is also a prime source of empty calories and it can increase your triglycerides (fat – the bad blood lipids). So start with that “martini-glass water drink”, and keep your red wine drinking to one or two glasses.

See green

Yellow and all the rainbow vegetables. Choose them at the party buffet table. Instead of nuts and carbohydrate loaded foods, go for cruciferous vegetables. They can help prevent man boobs and cancer (got your attention, didn’t I ?) and because they’ve got a crunch you’ll get the oral satisfaction you're wanting. Just smile at that harmless looking baked Brie appetizer, and if you still want nuts, put 12 on your plate, then eat them one at a time.

See white

White will put 10 pounds on you in a flash, unless it’s that white fruit combo you’re having for breakfast (…apples, pears, bananas, pineapples and a few golden raisins). The international conspiracy of white carbs including Irish potatoes, Indian rice, French baguettes, Italian cannoli, German spaetzle, English bread pudding and Armenian butter cookies will go right to your middle. They'll fill up that spare tire… but you’ll feel flat. So load up your plate with salads, vegetables and protein instead. Skip the white carbs and if you are going to take a dessert, then take just one taste bite and put your plate down. Now walk away from it.

Stand aside

Come to dinner armed with conversation topics and stand on the other side of the room away from the food table. Smile and laugh and everyone will come over to hear your stories. If you’re talking – you’re not eating. If you don't have anything to say, ask questions. People love to talk about themselves and you’ll make new friends doing this. Remember, even if it's on the other side of the room, standing next to the kitchen door doesn’t count.

To Z rescue

Get enough sleep. When you’re tired you eat more, you have less energy to kick your workouts into gear, you’re brain doesn’t work as well and sleepy people are less fun at parties. Need I say more?

Skinny control

Open your calendar and look at the date. January 1st is almost tomorrow. Start writing your goals for the New Year right now. Read or write in your journal every day. You’ll be amazed at how powerful this is. This one, simple action will help keep you focused and in control when you’re watching all your skinny friends wolfing down huge helpings of tiramisu at the end of the evening.

Heavy breathing

Cardio it up. Take the stairs, run to the bus stop, go dancing, do cardio at the gym. Trouble with your knees? Get them checked and don’t put it off because you’ll need them the rest of your life. Use non impact cardio equipment such as elliptical trainers. Alternately, be a duck and go swimming. No gym membership and a tight financial month? Go online and print out free passes to every gym in your neighborhood, or stop by and ask them for a guest pass to check out the gym. Then use them. At the end of December, you’ll know exactly which gym you want to join for your “New-Year’s-New-Body” resolution. There are no excuses – do at least 20 minutes of cardio every day. Do it like your life depends on it. It does.

Sup it up

If you’re doing all of these things, your immune system will be stronger. You'll want to keep it that way. Support it some more by taking a multi-vitamin, an anti-oxidant like ALA and extra vitamin C. On those nights when you’ve had too many drinks, in spite of your good intentions, take a milk thistle supplement and drink at least 10 ounces of water before going to bed. Your liver will thank you for it.

Tips of your own? Share away, I'd love to hear them.

Train Your Body. Train your Mind. Tame your Tongue.

Sunday, November 22, 2009

What's Next?


New beginnings...

Or the end of the line?

It doesn’t seem to matter if we’re graduating from high school, college, changing jobs, ending a relationship, moving across country or retiring. We all spend our lives changing, growing and wondering what’s next… and like that gift from a holiday party grab bag...hoping we’ll like what we get.

This blog entry was inspired when one of my high school friends retired. His email to me was “I don’t know what to do with myself.” At 59-60, a man’s life is strangely similar to that of being 29-30. Things get re-evaluated and shifted around. Just like getting a flat tire when you're already late for a meeting, I hit one of those slumps at 59. And even though I loved every minute of my work, I was still demanding of myself to find something new and exciting. Since it didn’t show up when I wanted it to, I decided to find more peace with my life by hitting the gym with a fierce intensity. Something had to change! It worked, my mood lightened up (so did my body), and everything seemed brighter.

Give it to me

But I still wanted something exciting to happen before I turned 60…

So last fall I headed up to the Catskills and started projects on our pre-civil war farmhouse — landscaping, laying stone walks, a new metal roof and painting the whole darn house. The house is always teaching me new lessons about myself, it’s still standing proud with a peaceful face toward every season with its uneven rock foundations, weathered siding, sloping floors and –now – a new silver roof.

Right then, while I was so engaged and happy with simple utilitarian projects and a lot of dirt under my fingernails, the universe granted my request. I received an offer to take my skills as a fitness trainer to the dancers on Madonna’s “Sticky and Sweet” tour in Europe and North America. My partner, Dr. Steven Margolin, was there as Madonna’s chiropractor. Together we made quite the wellness team.

Pre-show abs blast

Really Surreal

One night, before the kick-off of the tour, Steven, Liz Rosenberg (Madonna’s publicist for most of her career) and I sat in three yellow folding chairs in an empty Izod Arena in New Jersey as Madonna and her cast of performers ran through the first dress rehearsal of their “Sticky and Sweet” world tour. Exciting? Yes, and also a little surreal. I had the same feeling every night of the performance thereafter while standing backstage, riding busses between cities I’d never heard of and learning lessons from the Icon of Music who’s lyrics have pulled me onto dance floors most of my life.

At every point in our lives we’re looking for the next thing. This is good. It’s also good to become totally engaged with who we are right now. It allows us to be better, stronger and makes room for something new to show up.

So I was thinking that the best tools for preparing ourselves for the future are really three basic rules for living joyfully in the present:

1. Live with a healthy, fit mind.
2. Keep a healthy, fit body.
3. Enjoy a desire to experience all of life.

It's all good

Most of us get slammed with a realization that we have to look at our lives differently when we’re turning 29 or 30. In astrology, it’s called Saturn return. Physically, our bodies are just starting to change, and we look at our future and past with a new vision. When I was 30, I “came out”. Being married didn’t make it any easier. The only positive thing my dad said about it all came three years later… he thought I should have done it earlier because he’d never seen me happier.

I developed a motto during this time: “It’s all good in the end, if it’s not all good, it’s not the end.”

So wherever you are in life, go for the joy. If it’s one of those uncertain times, take control of the things you can. Get your body as fit as it can be and think good thoughts. If you want some inspiration, just listen and watch the new remix video of Madonna’s “Celebration” with all of her fans strutting their stuff. Find it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZYvXVyUANY

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Tips for “working out” your stuff

  • Leave your problems at the gym or yoga studio door. They’ll be there waiting for you, if you want them, when you’re done.
  • Wear something that makes you look and feel good. If nothing in your closet works, go out and buy that new tank top.
  • Hydrate before, during and after your workout. It’s good for your muscles, and keeps your brain happier and functioning.
  • Focus on each movement of each exercise. Be so present in your workout practice that there is no room for other thoughts.
  • Before you lift, know how many reps you want to do. Then do them.
  • Relax your grip. If you’re doing biceps and your forearms are tight, your mind will think you’re working them instead of your biceps.
  • I see so many guys at the gym making horrible faces when they train… if they only knew how unattractive they looked. Be an actor. Put on a stage smile. Stay conscious of your face when you’re working out and you’ll feel more energized. You’ll look better too — and don’t forget, we’re training our face muscles every time we use them!
  • Finish your chest, shoulder or leg workout with one or two light back exercise reps. You’ll leave the gym standing taller.
  • Do one nice thing for someone at the gym, it might just be a kind word. You’re the one who will feel good when you do it.
  • Eat when you’re done. Keep your energy up. You’ll want every bit of it to finish the day.

If none of these work, do what my high school friend does ­­­­— just go fishing.

Train Your Body. Train your Mind. Tame your Tongue.